PrettyThin

The worlds largest eating disorder community

Blog - ED Journal Post New Entry

« Back to Blog - ED Journal « Older Entry | Newer Entry »

What am i supposed to do!? help...

Posted by Obsess[ED] on March 12, 2010 at 10:50 AM

Okay so ive posted something about this before, my boyfriend is freaking out aout my Ana and the thinspo that i look at, i really dont know what to tell him, how to explain it to him without it seeming destructive. Im really becoming to love my new body and i just wish that he would leave me alone about it! its the only thing that i have thats MINE! he runs everything else, he controls the money and basically what i do, i mean its not like he holds me back from anything really its just the sircumstances that i have infront of me. I Love my Ana i love the way that i feel when i havent eaten, and i hate how i feel when im full. i still have some weight to lose and i just dont know what to do, how do i talk to him about it? hes going to think im rediculious. i just feel so much better when i have my Ana to help me.

Help guys, Please?

i dont know what to do and im so close to a nervous breakdown

he says he "wants me to think long and hard about our relationship and lying to him about my thinspo"

what the hell am i supposed to do? i cant get fat again i just CANT!

Categories: Random Thoughts, My Story

Post a Comment

Oops!

Oops, you forgot something.

Oops!

The words you entered did not match the given text. Please try again.

You must be a member to comment on this page. Sign In or Register

4 Comments

Reply Anadote
12:12 PM on March 12, 2010 
Can u hide it better? You could look at your thinspo at the library, couldn't you? Or print them out and keep them in a secret place? You could pretend you ate, by leaving plates of half eaten stuff around for him to see, but really just flush the food down the toilet? You could reassure him by telling him, "I love you, Honey-you're right," when secretly you can keep doing your own thing? Or you could just leave.
Reply bpreece
02:17 PM on March 12, 2010 
just tell him it's in control, it's not dangerous, you're doing okay, it's something all girls do and you're dealing with it, there's no need for him to worry and then just hide some things a bit better, and try not to worry, perhaps eat like i dunno, negative calorie foods when you're around him just so he can stop worrying (:
Reply pakchoicelerysoup
02:28 PM on March 12, 2010 
Don't necessarily hide anything from him man, be out front with him, especially if you're starting to fall in love with this guy. If he wants to love you, if he does love you, he needs to accept every part of you, especially ana as its such a huge bit :). Have you told him you genuinely feel happier? You need to come to some kind of compromise, you understanding that lying is bad and promising to try not to do it again, but he needs to get that this is you, ana is part of you. I don't think there would be a way for you to explain it to him without it coming across as being destructive, I can imagine it being that the way he sees it is that you're beautiful, he is with you for a reason, you're a beautiful person with a beautiful personality and having an ED certainly can come across as being destructive from an outsiders perspective, especially to those that love you.

I'm ranting here, I'm sorry, my point is that you guys need to come to some kind of compromise if you truly want to be with each other. Part of that compromise is that he needs to accept this part of you and the other is you not lying to him, at least promise to try. I hope this KIND of helps. It probably won't. I've started to tell my boyfriend the truth, letting him in more about the way I feel about myself and he's becoming to be supportive and wants to help me so its not all that bad :)
Reply IWishIWasHer<3
06:47 PM on March 12, 2010 
omg that is excatly what im going through
my boyfriend \&& me have non-stop argueing since he guessed ana was back in my life
he frieked now i have to pick ana or the realtionship
i dont know what to do either
im in llove with him buhh addicted to ana

i guess he will just have to live with it x

Welcome

Categories

Resources

ED Awareness at School

Eating Disorder Awareness 2012

Eating Disorder Awareness on Facebook

Helplines and Hotlines (coming soon)

Support PT


Newest Members

Eating Disorder Forums

by HayKay 9 minutes ago
by Quill 10 minutes ago
by sherlocked~ 11 minutes ago
by delilah123 14 minutes ago

Eating Disorder Blog and Journals

Page_white_text ..
by misunderstood__ | 5 comments
by Aly | 14 comments

PrettyThin on Facebook

PrettyThin on Twitter


PrettyThin on Flickr


Eating Disorder Community


PrettyThin is the "live and let live" among eating disorder websites. With a community that spans forums, blogs, and social networks, sharing on PrettyThin means sharing with the world. What is your experience with eating disorders? Share and learn within the community.

Eating Disorder Topics
General Discussions
Eating Disorder Recovery
Mental Health
PTSD/ED
Bulimia

Over:
55667 members | 63100 topics | 836042 posts